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  FOCUS ON THE PATH; IGNORE THE OBSTACLES. Sometimes ago, I was on Facebook and I saw a video from a speech given by a speaker (motivational speaker) at an event and I saw a lesson in what he said. He said, "You can't tell the human brain to do the negative. For instance, don't think of an elephant". The audience, including myself who was watching, immediately thought about an elephant, and then I immediately understood what he meant. He continued and said, " The human brain is difficult not to do something. That is why when you're learning to ski, the skiers would tell you to focus on the road, because the second you think in your head, 'don't hit the tree', that is when you'd run right through to one." You see, in our lives also, we are always trying to not make mistakes. We want to be so sure; we want to be perfect. Trevor Noah said in one of his comedies, "One problem of humans is that we get so comfortable knowing- 'how is t...

Armor of Positivity  Grandma was out to make my life terrible as usual, just like every other day. Nothing I ever do seems to satisfy my grandmother, who was certain that I would end up becoming exactly what she expects of me. By “expect,” I mean either I may have a child with an unidentified father, become a prostitute, or at the very least, drop out of high school. Nevertheless, I left her a note today like I do every day, regardless of the fact that she had just finished thrashing me with a broom and I still had spiral marks on my body as a signatory of the thrashing. That morning, as I was cleaning my grandma's room, her beautiful and most priceless bangles flew out after being propelled forward by the broom. I bowed my stiff back, as my grandma would say, and used my lethargic, useless hands in her words  to sweep away the area under her bed. My grandma thinks I am incredibly lazy and that I might even be more lazy than the proverbial tortoise so, lazy me ...

Live, don't just Breathe  Join our update group  for faster updates   According to Biologists, all organisms are classified broadly into two categories; living and non-living organisms. They based this classification on the ground of certain characteristics. In the case of non-living things, they classified them in this category because they do not have life in them. In other words, they do not breathe or respirate. Meanwhile, their counterparts- the living things, breathe and carry out their own activities on their own accord. Join our  update group  for faster updates Human beings have been also classified to be a living thing in this category, because we also have breathe in us. And, of course, we all can say how essential it is for us to breathe. Without breathe we cannot last more than minutes (depending on long we have been trained to hold it). However, breathing is not what makes us human in the real sense of it. Scientists have said that there ar...

GET UP, DON'T LET NOBODY STOP YOU! That day, I vowed never to do anything in the church anymore. I vowed to not even attend the church again. I had given up on working and getting insults in return. I mean, these people cannot even do half of what I have been doing, yet, all they do is complain about every little of my error. But, as I walked by the ATM stands, I heard the song, '.....Get up, get up, don't let nobody tell you that you can't....' And that was the spark that woke up my conscience. Join our  update group  for faster updates  In life, there is a stage that we get to and we want to give up on things we do, either for God or for people. This might be caused by people or circumstances around us. I mean, how do you tell a philanthropist whose child has been killed by some individuals to come and donate to rehabilitate those individuals? Even though he finds pleasure in doing his philanthropic act, it would be very difficult for him to do this on...

WHY YOU SHOULD MOST DEFINITELY GIVE UP HOPE. I have seen many people come to me to give them advice on how to not give up, and I find it funny that people want to avoid giving up with what they're facing. Before I go too far, you should not bother to fight. After all, life is not fair to you, why bother?  You should give up since you are very certain that you will never make it. But if you think you can make it, at least that doubt that, “if I try, I might make it”, then you should not give up. See, when you give up, you stop learning, you stop evolving. Thomas Edison attempted to do the bulb for 999 times, and he didn't give up. Uncle, how many attempts have you given that your dream before telling me you want to give up? Aunty, how many Jamb exams have you written yet? Isn't it too bad of you to give up when you've not even done as much as that person? He was able to attain greatness and make you and I have bulbs in our various houses because h...

ADAPTING TO NATURE'S EFFECT Biologically speaking, adaptation is one of the unique features of a living thing. Take note, 'a living thing'. Therefore, as long as breathe can be on your nostrils, you should continue to adapt. In our natural world, there are things we can change and there are some we cannot change. However, when those things we cannot change comes our way, we should be ready to adjust and live by it. Remember, when corona virus came, we deployed ‘a new normal’ Also, take for instance a student might have been writing an entry exam to a particular university for years and fails to get in every time he/she attempts it, not because he/she is not brilliant, but because of circumstances beyond their power. The ability to adjust and re-strategize lies in the hands of such individual. In life, there are the positive and negative side to nature that would happen to us. Since time immemorial, life has continued to bring good and/or bad to people. Chi...

SUCCESS IS ACCOMPANIED BY CLARITY  Happy new month cheers to making it to the 8th month of the year. I know it wasn't easy but we are glad you made it and we made it too. May the blessings of God abide with us for the rest of the year and his protection remain. We go this month in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. "Clarity precedes success ” ~ Robin Sharma Imagine entering a pitch-black space that you are unfamiliar with without any lighting. Have you yet to imagine it? How did you see it? I'll hazard a guess and say that you ran into several objects. Even your feet were just stabbed by a sharp object. So, that's how you approach a goal without clarity, I suppose.  What is clarity? The definition of clarity is the quality of being clear. A situation in which you are clear-headed, unaffected by the views of others or the barriers that stand in your way. People frequently advise you to be tenacious, courageous, persistent and focused becau...

Happy new month. Enjoy the bliss of July. We love you all and here is another vitamin for the week....... It takes a lot of hard work to attain that highest high called success. Sometimes you're going to get frustrated, sometimes you're going to be depressed, at some points even you'd think you're already making a head way only to find out that you're yet to get to your final destination and the light you've seen is just a firefly and not the end of the tunnel. But, recall that 'when the going gets tough, only the tough can get going' . Be tough enough to stand up and shake the dust from your bottom. According to the words of Calvin Coolidge, " Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence..... The slogan 'Press on' has  solved and always will solve the problems of the human race" . You just continue to be good and kind to fellow travelers you meet on the way. I know it's tough to do. You have a lot on your plat...

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE? This is the same question most people ask themselves. It is a question that is posed to every young adult, especially the unserious ones. This is so because, our life seem so fast to us: and, yes, it may seem so, but we need a purpose to answer this question. And we all need to provide suitable answers to it. Not the usual, 'I want to be successful and rich'. You want to be successful and rich while doing what exactly? WHERE CAN YOU FIND YOURSELF IN THE NEXT 5-10 YEARS? 'I  see myself as an entrepreneur with different houses and cars'    some will answer while others can’t seem to place themselves anywhere. The bitter truth is that nothing good ever comes easy. 80% of new business owners fail in their first 5 years while the remaining 20% succeeds why? Patience You started up a business or project, after some years, it isn’t going as expected, just calm down, exercise patience for that is the key. As you journey on, you...

SEETH THOU A MAN DILIGENT IN HIS WORKS? Skinnies Blog Update group Skinnies Blog Update group Diligence, according to the English dictionary is a 'steady application; industry; careful work involving long-term effort. It is also the qualities of a hard worker, including conscientiousness, determination, and perseverance. At the beginning of every business, there is always a solid gloomy darkness that usually makes the business seem like it is never going to make it beyond the starting stage. However, due diligence is needed to take the business through that tunnel. “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” —Dale Carnegie Skinnies Blog Update group Commitment to one's work is the only thing that brings about a difference between one worker and the other. There could be a thousand carpenters on the same street, yet one will be thriving more than the others. This would be because he is diligent in his...

BE OF GOOD CHEERS, I HAVE CONQUERED THE WORLD FOR YOU Skinnies Blog Update group Skinnies Blog Update group Apologies to those who might find it offensive that this post uses a biblical heading, but, for a fact, the world is filled with topsies-turvies that can shake your mind and your emotional well-being. Imagine how much faith we put into starting our small businesses only to see it crumble rather than yield incomes. Or shall I begin the endless list of failures encompasses in this flabbergasting life we find ourselves in. Sad! However, there is a biblical saying that seem to have been written against such event, so as to cheer us up. Skinnies Blog Update group One day, I met someone who told me he is hungry, and I jokingly replied that he was feeling the hunger because he is alive. Of a truth, a dead man does not feel hunger, do they? Can someone in coma even respond to the pangs associated with 'belly-rumble? Of course not. They are oblivious of it. Whi...

BEFORE THE BATTLE OF THE FIST, COMES THE BATTLE OF THE MIND   Skinnies Blog Update group A high morale is needed for soldiers going to war. They need to be enthusiastic about what they're going to face. According to a writer, "A soldier fights, not because he hates what his in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him (what he is defending)". This simply means that in order to win, he needs to constantly remind himself that the battle is not about who he is fighting or what he is facing but about what he is trying to defend.   Skinnies Blog Update group According to Master Shifu, " Before the battle of the fist, comes the battle of the mind". When you don't believe in yourself or a cause you are working towards, then you will not make the success you're supposed to make. Last year, I had a friend operated on and while we were waiting for her to be discharged, an old lady on a bed beside us died. She didn't die fr...

I invested in an internet enterprise which, unknown to me, turned into a Ponzi scheme. I had invested a lot of my time, cash, and trust into the business and I had withdrawn money severally to the point that I felt convinced to put in a larger sum. So, I took loans from three sources to fund my meant supply of constant income. Unfortunately for me, the system crashed, and I couldn't withdraw my capital nor the gain. The world round me started to crash as money creditors began to ask for their money. I became devastated and didn't know what to do. I thought of suicide, and it seemed like the best option. After all, no one would ask a dead man for money. But, then a voice said to me, 'You have every right to give up, just don't'.  Every so often, many times, the world presses us down, and we can't seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel. We seem to keep on hitting rock bottom irrespective of how hard we try, but that doesn't give us t...