9 Red flags to avoid in relationships

 

RED FLAGS IN RELATIONSHIPS PART 1

Crossing the bridge of relationships, dating or courtship, whichever one that suits well with you into the forever deal has become so tasking these days and so, it is essential to look before you leap. It is important to check well before you say yes to forever. 

There are several red flags and signals that you should never ignore when you see them rearing their heads in your relationship. Take note as I delve into them.

 9 Red Flags That You Should Take note of

1. Break-up threats: If your partner threatens to leave you after minor arguments/fights, it is saddening to say even when you marry this will continue and may materialize so, be sage.
2. Domestic violence: the dangers of domestic violence cannot be overemphasized, my dear! and this doesn’t apply to females alone but to both genders. Run, I mean to run from such people who are quick to use their fists and words when choosing a partner. Don’t give excuses about other possible traits that are endearing. No matter how sweet a lion looks you definitely won’t leave a baby by its side. Be sage. More so, partners who are harsh with words, condescending, negatively manipulative, dream crushers, verbal abusers don’t make good spouses and so, pick that nice shoes and walk away.
3.  Lack of Communication: what century are you in? Are you undermining the power of communication? Back in those days, you didn’t have to really communicate but these days, communication is the “bed” beside the “rock” (love). So, if you are the only one that does all the calling, caring, messaging, texting… It depicts that you are forcing yourself on such a partner. A partner that truly loves you will show it through actions, without excuses, they will find time to connect with you no matter how busy their schedule is. You will be seen as a priority. Be Sensitive.
4.  Cheating: a cheating partner can as well not be a partner at all. A partner that cheats in a relationship has the chance of cheating in the marriage too so be Wise. 
5.  Hiding You: If he/she hides you if he/she is not proud of you if he/she fails to introduce you to his friends and family, it is possible you are not his/her only option… Be wise.
6. A suckling: If he/she is a Mummy’s boy/girl, if he/she can’t make decisions by himself/herself, if he/she must consult his/her mum at all times before he/she can talk to you, his/her mum will influence him/her in marriage. Be wise.
7. Immaturity: If he/she still behaves like a child, if he/she is not mature Spiritually, Emotionally, Mentally, Financially, etc. Marriage is not for kids; marriage is for mature people. Be wise.
8.  Lack of Vision: a visionless partner whether male or female is definitely going to be an irresponsible one. A woman without vision will be a liability to a man, and a man with no vision will be a burden to a woman, and irresponsibility is just lurking at the Conner … Be wise. Another aspect of Vision is that your visions have to align if not there will be conflicts.
9. Lies/ Deceit: A man that lies and a woman that lies in courtship will lie in marriage. If your partner is not a transparent type, if he/she is a deceptive person, this is a red flag as there are very high tendencies of a problematic marriage. Be wise

 WRITTEN BY 

DEFENSE MARSHALL

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